She just wrote a book on dating, but Jennifer Love Hewitt says she prefers to be in a relationship than out there testing the waters. “I don’t think anyone truly enjoys dating,” the actress and author of The Day I Shot Cupid said Tuesday on NBC”s Today show. “I’m better in relationships than I am going out with one guy on a Monday and then another one on a Wednesday and another one on a Saturday. It feels weird to me. So, I tend to spend time with people and have boyfriends versus dates.”

Asked why she hadn’t found Mr. Right yet, the actress, 31 — who recently split from her Ghost Whisperer costar Jamie Kennedy — replied, “I think that’s how love works. I think it’s timing, and figuring out who you are.” Not necessarily referring to Kennedy, 39, she added: “I think it takes a lot of frogs to find your prince.” The two actors are still working together on the CBS show, and Hewitt says it hasn’t been too terrible. “I think maybe earlier in my life that would’ve been a harder thing to do,” she said. “But with age comes growing up, and it’s been OK. It’s been fine.”

Hewitt also spoke about her weight controversy in 2007, saying she moved on from it pretty quickly, thanks to a little help from her friends. “People came out in support, and that part was really lovely,” she said. As for her future in love, Hewitt — who was once engaged to Scottish actor Ross McCall — says she still has some self-discovery left to do first. “I think every relationship you’re in teaches you something different about yourself,” she said. “And I feel like, at 31, there’s still so much more I need to know about myself before I can completely give the perfect version of me to someone.”

From People